我喜欢Summer.尽管在Tom一往情深的对比下，她显得有些冷酷无情。从头至尾手握这段感情的生杀大权。难怪在分手时她将自己比喻成了用匕首刺死自己女友的Sid Vicious.
她说：
I just wanna tell you that I’m not really looking for anything serious. Is that ok? Casual. Take it slow. No pressure.
You don’t believe that a woman could enjoy being free and independent? I just don’t feel comfortable being anyone's girlfriend. I don't actually feel comfortable being anyone's anything. I like being on my own. Relationships are messy, and people's feelings get hurt. Who needs it?
对她的随性颇有共鸣。不要和我谈太远的未来。Don’t even put a label on me. 缺乏安全感也罢，逃避也罢。只是想用自己的节奏慢慢体会。
快乐的时候她亦是投入的，她笑着对Tom说You’re fun.的真诚，在IKEA牵手的温馨，讨论音乐时那种默契相投，直至分享梦境和心底的世界。可是她给不了更多。于Tom而言简直是莫名其妙的戛然而止。
在观看的过程中反复验证汤姆一定是巨蟹座，对于莎莫，却很难定义。明明说自己不相信爱情不相信命运，却在看到自己未来老公的第一刻就相信He is the one。于是，这件事便开始变得跟相不相信无关。而当听到最后那句I'm Autumn时，发现这件事与星座也无关。
有人说这500天对汤姆来说是杯具，但在我看来，更是汤姆情商的练习和提升。从一开始对命运的刻板笃信，到最后的释然，人的成长向来如此，总要自己亲手推翻自己所秉持的世界观，然后在此之上构筑一个更加稳固强大的认知模式，是自身内部优胜劣汰的进化。
莎莫之于汤姆，是一种理想化的美好，他们确曾拥有相爱时刻，但终究像夏天午后的阵雨，片刻即逝。当美好片段成为日以继夜的伤害时，便证明汤姆并不属于这个耀眼而繁盛的季节，再如何停滞和逗留，终将去往下一个季节。
也许还会有再下一个，也许永久居留。
无论如何，至少我爱秋天更多一些。
引自我的时光http://www.mtime.com/my/1320977/
经历summer真不见得是坏事，这样我们才知道，爱情里不是只有自己，还有另一个人，一个你永远无法100%确定知道ta想法的人。
所以恋爱的话，就是要不断去反思，要经营，要不断地投入。
crush简单，love？可没那么简单。不上心的话，那个不知道在想什么的人就不知道去想什么了。
summer外表光鲜，个性有魅力。可是从小父母离异，她所经历的伤害让她无法安心和别人相爱。她的不安和孤独Tom并没看到。事实上，Tom很少去设身处地的考虑summer的感受，只是很享受和她一起的时光，享受她带给他的fun。这么看来，Tom被pass其实是合情合理的事。他不过是个沉浸在自己幻想里的没长大的男孩，给不了summer想要的安全感。
听过朋友们的各类感情故事，渐渐觉得，没有莫名其妙的不爱，也没有莫名其妙的爱。
一个人不爱另一个人，不过因为对方没办法给ta ta想要的东西。
为什么没办法给？
原因很多时候是一个字：懒。
懒得去理解，懒得去包容，懒得去揣摩对方想要什么，懒得去忍耐，懒得去经营，懒得去让自己变得更好... 嘴上说自己爱别人的人
"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain."
Love the way you do. if it fails, pass on to the next one. do not cling to the old theory love and you will be loved. Love is a journey someone will accompany you till the last stop while someone will pop off without a sign. Sit back and chill out. if it is real love it will find you. Catch you by the heel. as Bono sings.
“和莎莫的500天”一个bitch和一个傻X的故事
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